Possessing a thing is never as good as being deprived of it is bad. In order to appreciate what we have, we must experience in some way, real or imaginary, the loss of it.
Yet, understandably, humans do not normally seek out real losses, or comfortably conjure
up imaginary ones. It is a human predicament: humans recoil from losses, yet without them there is no vantage point from which to savor what one has.
John Cantwell Kiley,"Self Rescue"
A match might start a fire, but once the fire is burning putting out the match won't stop it. The problem is no longer the match. It's the fire.
