Here is an example from http://www.newconversations.net/
With my commens below
| The Five I-Messages = Five dimensions of experience | Example of a “Five I-Message” communication |
| 1. What are you seeing, hearing or otherwise sensing?. | Mom says: “When I saw the dishes in the sink… |
| 2. What emotions are you feeling? | …I felt irritated and impatient… |
| 3. What interpretations or wants of yours that support those feelings? | …because I want to start cooking dinner right away… |
| . What action, information or commitment you want to request now? | …and I want to ask you to help me do the dishes right now… |
| 5. What positive results will receiving that action, information or commitment lead to in the future? | …so that dinner will be ready by the time Mike and Joe get here.” |
Doesn't identify universal needs
Doesn't create a onnection
Doesn't consider the other person's needs
Doesn't help self understanding
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What else is the mom feeling?
How will she feel if dinner isn't ready when Mike and Joe get there?
Who are Mike and Joe? Her sons? Her bosses? Members of a support group?