Meeting Tips
This section includes tips and suggestions that can help ease the process
of participating on the Team that will decide if your child is eligible for
Special Education and if so, writing your child's Individualized Educational
Program.
Preparing for the Meeting
If this is your first Special Education meeting consider these suggestions:
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Learn all you can about your child's school. Tour the building, learn the
school system, get to know what resources are available, how the school system
is involved with the community, what extracurricular activies are offered,
transportation available, and meet the school personnel.
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Compile all records on your child. You can use a file folder and notebook
or a three-ring binder with folders and index tabs. Include all health records,
Early Intervention records, day care records, nursery or preschool records,
notes on developmental milestones, evaluations, letters from and to any
professionals including teachers, test scores, report cards, etc. Be sure
to take this folder or binder with you to the meeting.
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Record the date you received the Notice of Referral and keep the notice in
your child's file. You may want to ask for a copy of the referral for your
file also.
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Follow timelines to be sure the process moves along as it is suppose to.
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Request a sample IEP form and become familiar with the information that it
contains. This will help you prepare your input and questions as well as
give you an idea of what will be discussed during the meeting.
General Preparation
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Remember that no news is good news. Just like fires, violence, crimes, floods,
etc. making the news, you only hear about these Special Education meetings
when there is a problem. In actuality, most of the time the meeting goes
very well and all members of the Team truly do want what is best for your
child. Certainly be prepared and know the laws and your rights, but don't
go into the meeting with your guns loaded and aimed.
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Send a copy of any letters, evaluations, doctors reports, etc. to the appropriate
school personnel. If the school has a file on your child, only send the most
recent documents that they may not have received. Likewise, be sure you have
a copy of any recent evaluations before the meeting so you will have time
to review it and not be seeing or hearing the results for the first time
while at the meeting. Review the folder or binder you have been keeping on
your child and be sure it is up-to-date. Remember to take this folder with
you to the meeting.
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Before any review meetings, call for a teacher's conference to be sure you
are up-to-date on your child's strengths, weaknesses and current levels of
accomplishments. Ask the teacher what his or her areas of concern are for
your child. Try to get an idea of where the teacher stands so you will eliminate
the potential for a surprise. If your schedule does not allow for a face
to face meeting with the teacher, you can do this by telephone. If your child
is receiving related services such as physical or speech therapy, have the
same discussion with each of these service providers. you might be able to
coordinate all of these meetings into one group meeting.
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Think about what goals you think should be set for your child. Observe your
child and your family at home and in the community. What is your child trying
to do, or near accomplishing? These could be things to set as goals in the
IEP. What obstacles does your family deal with due to your child's disability?
What is frustrating or embaarrasing for your child or your family?
(Toilet-training, self-help, communicating, behavior, etc.) What does your
child wish he could do?
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If your child has multiple disabilities or delays in several areas, try to
identify what your child's priorities are (i.e. speech, social, cognitive,
etc.). Ask yourself what one or two things you would like your child to be
able to do as an adult. (Walk, talk, communicate, live as independently as
possible, be gainfully employed, etc.) This can help you determine your family's
priorities and values and help you clarify what you feel is most important
for your special needs child. Some families feel that cognitive development
is more important than playing well with other children on the playground
while another family may determine that any form of communication is more
important than independent mobility. Is it more important to you that your
child eat well at lunch or is it more important the he learn the necessary
self-help skills regardless of how much, or how little, he actually gets
into his mouth? The needs of your child and the priorities of your child
and family need to be appropriately conveyed to the rest of the IEP Team
as a multitude of different factors come into play for each child.
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You may want to call your Chairperson and ask to meet the members of the
Team. Or you may simply want to meet the Parent Represntative, either in
person or by telephone.
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Become familiar with the Individuals with the Individuals with Disabilites
Education Act and keep current on any changes. Know your child's legal rights
and your rights in the evaluation, eligibility and placement process.
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If appropriate, talk with your child about the upcoming meeting and get direct
information from your child about anything relevant to the decisions that
will be made. If you plan on having your child attent the meeting, prepare
him for the meeting.
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Become familiar with the different diploma options available from your school
system.
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IDEA states that you may invite any other individual that knows your child
to attend the meeting with you. If you feel you would be more comfortable
with a support person with you, think about who that person should be. The
two of you can prepare together for this meeting. You may want to ask your
support person to take notes for you during the meeting since so much happens
during this meeting. You will then be able to review what went on after the
meeting. Be sure your support person knows where you stand on all issues
that are likely to be covered during the meeting so they will be able to
help you express your thoughts and feelings.
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Some community-based organizations may provide a parent advocate to assist
you. If you have been experiencing difficulty in previous IEP meetings, some
nonprofit legal agencies provide legal advocates which are funded by grants
and, therefore, at no cost to parents.
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You may find it helpful to review a sample IEP form, or your child's previous
IEP, and record your thoughts, questions, and preferences. Use these notes
during the meeting.
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Your general ongoing record keeping could include your child's completed
projects and assignments which display his strengths. You will also find
it helpful to keep an educational history including names of schools, dates
attended, names of teachers, dates of conferences and notes about the
conferences.
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Be sure to continue to record dates of evaluations, when you signed consent
forms, etc.
At the Meeting
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Give the Team insights about yuor child. What he is like at home, after school,
and on vacations. State your concerns and ideas for your child's educational
program. Use your records or materials, if necessary.
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Pay close attention to the goals set for your child. Be sure they are not
things he can already do, or is near mastering. At the same time, if you
feel it is unrealistic to expect your child to achieve the goals in the specified
time period, bring your concerns up the the other IEP Team members. Often
the goals will be broken down into steps and the goal revised to only include
one or two steps necessary to achieve the original goal.
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If you find yourself emotionally breaking down during the IEP meeting, as
many parents do, try to regain control by reminding yourself that this is
an extremely emotional event for you. Although the other members of the IEP
TEam are not usually parents of a child with a disability, they have participated
in many IEP meetings and realize that it is an emotionally charged event
for parents. Try not to let your emotions reveal themselves in destructive
ways, such as displaced anger, rather ask for a brief recess in the meeting
and leave the meeting room for a few minutes.
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Take your time. If things are happening too fast for you, ask the chairperson
to slow the process down. Question any of the members about what they have
said.
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Listen to the responses of the Team members. If the members disagree with
you, give yourself time to hear and digest their points of view even if it
means coming back for another meeting.
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Record the date of the meeting and who was present in your child's file.
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As your child reaches high school age, the Team should begin to consider
plans for Occupational Education or other options for after he graduates
from high school. Discuss diploma options and the need for an adult service
provider for services your child may need in adulthood.
Follow-Up
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Closely monitor your child's progress (or lack of) and discuss any concerns
with an appropriate member of the IEP Team.
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Keep the lines of communication open at all times.
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As soon after the meeting as possible, write down your impressions of what
happened during the meeting. These notes will help you if you ever have to
contest the recommendations made for your child.
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Remember that you may return to the IEP Team at any time to revise your child's
IEP.
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