LOVE: The irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. (Mark Twain)

What is Love? There are many meanings of love;different people give different definitons. It may be hard to understand what IS that 'love' everyone talks about... BUT try to figure out what's NOT love!! To name few... If your "love"abuses you or doesn't respect you then there is no love. If there is no respect then there is no love; respect is one big ingrediant of love. Is jealousy a sign of love? If it leads to an argument, then, no!! Jealousy is actually a sign of low self esteem. Normal jealousy is fine, after all we are humans, but a jealousy that leads to an argument, it's not good. Is love uncondtional? No. What factors determine with whom you would fall in love with? Proximity (How often your paths cross) Physical Attractiveness (You are more likely to end up with a person who is in the same level of attractiveness as you are) Similarity Researcher Robert Sternberg (1988): "Living happily ever after" need not be a myth, but if it is to be a reality, the happiness must be based upon different configurations of mutual feelings at various times in a relationship. Couples who expect their passion to last forever, or their intimacy to remain unchallenged, are in for disappointment....We must constantly work at understanding, building, and rebuilding our loving relationships. Relationships are constructions, and they decay over time if they are not maintained and improved. We cannot expect a relationship simply to take care of itself, any more than we can expect that of a building. Rather, we must take responsibilty of making our relationship the best they can be." Source: R.J.Sternberg & M.L. Barnes (Eds.), The psychology of love, 1988, chapter: Triangulating love. New Haven: Yale Universtiy Pres.

HOME ->Love->Love Quotes Cards What is love? How do you love? What is love? This is Love! You are the best! When love meets reality.. Your voice makes me.. Soo Cute!! Love must face reality. Take it easy Love is... Cute as well 1   2

Love Styles Sternberg�s Love Triangle Passion � motivational (addiction), exciting, intense Intimacy � emotional/affective/liking Commitment/Decision � cognitive -Intimacy alone is akin to friendship -Passion alone is infatuation -Commitment alone is empty love To sum it up: Romantic love = Intimacy and passion Fatuous Love = passion and commitment Companionate love = intimacy and commitment Consumate or complete love= Intimacy+passion+commitment/is special There are six basic love styles Eros � passionate love Ludus � game for mutual enjoyment Storge � friendship love Mania � possessive love Pragma � practical love Agape � all-giving selfless love (Aronson, Wilson, & Akert, 2002)

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