Submissive's Rights

Every Dominant/submissive relationship is different, and the terms of that relationship must ultimately be defined by the people in it. There is no "right" or "wrong" way for two people to exchange power.

However, for a submissive who is new to the scene and is not certain what their rights are, the following may prove to be a useful starting point. Like everything, the following "rights" are subject to negotiation between the partners.

i have the right to set limits, and expect them to be respected

i have the right to adjust these limits at any time, with notice to Y/you.

i have the right to expect Y/you to push them, to force me to create new limits and

boundaries.

i have the right to privacy. i expect Y/you to be concerned about time W/we spend apart, but i expect Y/you to understand that i am a person, separate from Y/you, and thusly having problems and situations in my life that i will not need Your help with.

i have the right to expect Y/you will respect me for my independence and not criticize me for it.

i have the right to ask Y/you for help, should i need it.

i have the right to be trusted, providing i have earned it, and

i have the right to expect Y/you to believe i am an intelligent, caring and loyal person.

i have the right to ask things of Y/you, and have Y/you listen to my requests.

i have the right to ask for Your attention, without having to misbehave to get it.

i have the right to ask Y/you to contribute as much to this relationship as i do.

As long as my requests are submitted respectfully, i expect Y/you to consider them as Y/you would from any Friend or Colleague.

i have the right to question Your motives, should Y/you deny my requests, as long as i do so with the proper respect.

i have the right to expect Y/you to administer Your punishment with care and caution.

i have the right to use my safe words at any point, should i feel them necessary.

i have the right to get up and walk away from a scene if Y/you have crossed the line.

i have the right to expect Y/you to respect my decisions, and not think less of me, or abandon me for them.

i have the right to speak up if i feel O/our relationship is not giving me what i need.

i have the right to tell Y/you what i need, in a respectful manner.

i have the right to expect Y/you to understand my reasons for doing so, and the right to expect Y/you to listen with an open mind.

i have the right to walk away from the relationship if W/we cannot come to a common ground on these issues.

i have the right to expect tenderness, love and understanding after a scene is completed, should it be what i desire.

i have the right to ask Y/you for that tenderness if i've had a bad day, or if i just feel the need for closeness.

i understand that there will be times when Y/you and i will disagree about this - when Y/you will want a scene, and i will not.

i have the right to call for a talk about this, and to expect Y/you to listen to and consider my reasoning.

i expect Y/you to have the final word, but i expect Y/you to wholeheartedly consider my feelings, whatever they may happen to be.

i have the right to expect O/our relationship to progress, for trust to continually be renewed, for O/our souls to be as close as O/our bodies are.

i have the right to tell Y/you if i need more from Y/you, and i expect Y/you to respect my decisions about what i want and need.

i expect Y/you to want the relationship to progress, unless decided otherwise before hand.

i expect Y/you to understand that deep trust often breeds love, and i expect Y/you not to repel me if i tell Y/you that i love Y/you. For, my Master, i will love Y/you, should O/our relationship move ahead, should O/our trust continue to grow.

i have the right to expect Y/you to tell me, at any point, if Y/you do not feel Y/you can return those feelings, so that i may decide what i want and need. For it is Your pleasure that adds to my own, makes it real. And mine, that adds to Yours.