"I hate working
with Ann. She is so slow and has no ki." "Well I hate working with
Serge. He is always telling me what to do and he hits too hard." Does
this sound familiar? This conversation took place in a changeroom
after a recent class, but it could have been any dojo or club changeroom.
This is a conversation that we often repeat or is heard by each of
us. Nevertheless, do we really know what we are talking about?
Our unique aspect
of Martial Arts is partner work. However, most of us do not really
know what a partner can offer or how to make the most of these situations.
Some of us labour under the impression that the best partner is the
individual who is perfect at the art we are practicing or at least
better than ourselves. This person is also much larger than us with
amazing flexibility and, with very little effort, can pull a parked
bus 30 metres with a chain wrapped around his waist. This is often
who we compare our partners to. Of course this person does not exist.
If you look in
the mirror, you will find your best partner. However we cannot work
with ourselves. The person that appears across from you on the dojo
floor when you are told to pair up is also a reflection of yourself.
Use this reflection to the best of your ability. If your partner is
weak make them stronger by your power. If your partner is shorter
than you, make them taller by deepening your stance. If your partner
does not understand the technique help them understand by perfecting
the technique yourself. If your partner isn't concentrating give them
focus by your own concentration. Pass your manner on to them. You
are entrusting your lives to each other. Their weakness is your weakness.
You must work on it together.
Well that is about
the ZEN of it, but what does this mean in practical terms? How do
we achieve this way of thinking? The main reason for partner work
is to practice a technique with someone. With all techniques come
three areas of concentration. They are focus, timing and rhythm. To
achieve this, you must work you partner. You have to give focus, timing
and rhythm to your partner to receive it back. It is really a give/take
situation. Often we expect to have proper manner given to us. Do we
always give it back?
One must respect
your partner's situation. For instance, if you are working with a
partner who is less experienced than you, teach them by example. We
tend to talk too much about a technique. Let's face it. Most martial
arts are taught by demonstration. Do the same with your partner. Let
your partner practice the technique. Do not tell them about it. Let
them experience it. Another aspect of respect concerns your own attitude.
Like bad attitude the situation will never improve. Face all your
partners with a positive attitude. Learning and being taught is not
just the sole domain of the sensei. The martial artist learns from
everyone, that is those who are better than the artist and those the
artist is better than.
This brings us
to the most important point. Partners can be male, female, tall, short,
thin, or fat. A partner can be physically challenged. These are attributes
that can also be found in a real life opponent. A physical ideal does
not exist for a partner. The martial artist relies on the mental edge.
The ideal partner has spirit, determination and manner. The ideal
partner is standing across from you.