ON LONELINESS

If you want a recipe for disaster, let your loneliness motivate your choices. Choose to be with someone just because you’re lonely. The desperation that loneliness creates blinds you to the other person. You choose someone merely because that person stays with you.

It could just as well be a hundred other people when you choose the wrong person. Any person can end your loneliness at first, but only the right person can keep you from missing yourself. The wrong person drives your best away. You are never more lonely than when you learn your best.

When you are not your best, the times you spend by yourself are also times away from yourself. You are not what you want to be and you feel alienated from your journey and weary of the road.

And when you are with others, you use their presence like a drug. And need them to much. You fear their withdrawal and the abstinence of silence. In the middle of togetherness you anticipate parting and the fretful time when you will be alone with a self you do not esteem.

You need to tolerate your loneliness by knowing what it stands for.

See your loneliness as your heart’s dream for a life filled with meaning. Use your time alone to think about your passion.

Use your time to weave the fabric of your intention.

In silence, find the echo of your true intent.

Be grateful for being alone.

Your loneliness is always for you.

** I live in the spaces between my thoughts.***

~~Unknown, from the book "Finding your strength in difficult times" by David Viscott.