Words You Should Know
Doggy-Style: A sex position where the receiver is on their hands and knees while their partner enters them from behind.
Foreplay: Everything you do before intercourse, like making out, holding each other while spooning, cute lil neck smooches, fingering, oral sex, spanking, humping, dirty talk, or even just sending a sext prior to pants coming off.
Hickey: Also known as a “love bite.” A hickey is caused by one person sucking the other’s skin (usually on their neck) until small blood vessels burst, creating a patch of discoloration, aka a bruise.
Amazon (position): An advanced sex position that’s a combo between missionary and cowgirl. The bottom partner lies down on their back with their knees bent up in the air, and the top partner (usually the woman) get between their legs and slowly lowers down onto their partner. Both parties are intertwined, and the top partner uses their knees and hands for balance.
Anal Sex: Most commonly refers to anal penetration, typically with a penis, aka anal intercourse.
Anorgasmia: The inability to have an orgasm.
Asexual: A person who doesn’t experience a lack of sexual desire. They can be attracted to someone but don’t feel the need to get physical.
Bareback: Having sex without a condom. This is risky and kind of dangerous as it increases your chances of STIs and/or pregnancy.
BDSM: An acronym that stands for any or all of the following: bondage and discipline; dominance and submission; sadism and masochism.
Bisexual: Someone who is bisexual is defined by GLAAD as someone who “has the capacity to form enduring physical, romantic, and/or emotional attractions to those of the same gender, or to those of another gender.”
Blow Job: When someone puts their lover’s penis into their mouth and proceeds to suck and lick it for the penis-haver’s pleasure. Also called oral sex, fellatio, or “going down on” someone. The female version is called cunnilingus.
Blue Balls: As a slang term (aka not a medical term), “blue balls” refer to the pain a man feels in his scrotum from prolonged sexual arousal without ejaculation. Blue balls is not dangerous and doesn’t cause any long-term damage, nor do the balls turn a blue shade.
Bulge: The visible outline of a penis through someone’s pants.
Butt Plug: An anal sex toy shaped like a teardrop meant to be placed or “plugged” into one’s butthole.
Circumcision: The removal of the foreskin of the penis to reveal the head. The procedure typically happens when the boy is a baby, although it can sometimes be performed during adulthood for medical reasons, religious reasons, or just because a man wants it.
Cowgirl: A sex position where you have your legs on the outside of your partner’s hips and face them.
Cosplay: Short for “costume play” and refers too dressing up as one of your favorite characters from pop culture and taking on the persona of that character.
Creampie: The non-dessert definition is when semen visibly drips out of a vagina or anus after ejaculation during sex.
Cum Shot: A term used in pornography referring to the moment a man ejaculates, usually on his partner, where the semen can easily be seen.
Cunnilingus: A fancy word that means oral sex when performed on a woman. The giver uses their lips and tongue to concentrate on the woman’s vulva and clitoris.
Deep Throating: A blow job technique where the giver puts as much of the penis into their mouth as they can (sometimes the whole penis) which can sometimes cause gagging or even vomiting.
Diaphragm: A contraceptive device that sits at the opening of your cervix to block sperm.
Dirty Sanchez: An act where someone puts their finger into their partner’s ass, then wipes any fecal matter that may transfer onto their finger over that person’s lip, resulting in a poop mustache. FWIW, it’s generally accepted that this act (among other gross-out sex acts) is more urban legend than something you’d actually encounter in the bedroom.
Dirty Talk: Talking about sex acts with your partner in an explicit, arousing way before or while engaging in sex acts.
Edging: Refers to delaying an orgasm for as long as possible with the goal of having an ultimately more intense climax.
Face-Sitting: When a woman or man dangles their genitals over their partner’s mouth to receive oral sex.
Facial: When referring to the sex definition of a facial, it’s when a penis-haver ejaculates semen onto their partner’s face.
Fingering: When someone uses their fingers to stimulate their partner’s clitoris and/or vagina in order to bring them to orgasm, or to be used as foreplay.
Foot Fetish: A sexual interest in feet. A person with a foot fetish may be aroused by touching, licking, rubbing, kissing, sucking, and massaging of feet.
Foot Job: Similar to hand jobs, but involves using feet rather than hands to rub and stimulate a partner’s penis.
Golden Shower: Also called “water sports” and refers to a sex act involving urine. This can mean peeing on your partner, in front of your partner, near your partner, or having your partner pee on/near/in front of you.
Hand Job: Using your hand to stimulate someone’s penis until orgasm.
Jelqing: The practice of stroking the penis when erect in a particular way to increase its size. This is a similar concept to using a penis pump.
Masturbation: The act of touching or manipulating one’s own genitals for pleasure, which sometimes results in an orgasm.
Mile-High Club: Refers collectively to anyone who has ever had sex on a plane.
MILF: An acronym that stands for “Mom I’d Like to Fuck.”
Motorboating: The act of putting your face in between someone’s breasts and moving your head back and forth quickly while making a raspberry sound with your tongue and lips (like the sound of a motorboat.)
Orbiting: When your ex continues to interact with all your Instagram Stories and social media, letting you know they’re still around.
Orgy: Group sex with several partners in a party-like scenario that’s a bit over-the-top and outta control.
Pearl Necklace: When someone with a penis ejaculates onto their partner’s neck or chest. The term comes from the drops of semen that are said to look like the individual pearls on a strand of beads.
Pegging: When someone without a penis performs anal intercourse on their partner with the help of a strap-on dildo. Usually between hetero partners.
Period Sex: Having sex while you menstruate.
Pillow Princess: Someone who likes to lie back and let their boo do most of the physical work during sex.
Polyamory: The practice of having multiple romantic partners.
Pompoir: Using vaginal muscles in different ways to stimulate the penis during intercourse.
Pregnant Sex: Sex while carrying a baby inside you.
Quickie: Speedy, rushed sex, often without foreplay or cuddling.
Reverse-Cowgirl: A sex position that’s basically regular cowgirl (you facing your partner and straddling them with knees on either side of their hips), but backward, so you’re facing their feet instead.
Rimming: Also called a rim job, tossed salad, and analingus; refers to oral sex involving mouth-to-anus contact.
Roaching: When someone you’re dating hides the fact they are also dating other people at the same time, and when confronted about it, claim they didn’t realize it was a monogamous relationship.
Rough Sex: Basically the opposite of “making love.” Refers to any sort of S&M (sadistic and masochistic) sexual activity. The definition of “rough” varies person to person, so there’s no hard and fast rule here. Talk to your partner about what they define “rough” as if you’re going to experiment with consensual rough sex.
Rusty Trombone: The act of performing a simultaneous rim job and hand job.
Shocker: When someone sticks their pointer and middle fingers inside someone’s vagina, and then “surprises” them with a pinky finger in their anus, hence “shocking” them.
Shrimping: The act of sucking on your partner’s toes.
Sixty-Nine (69): A sex position where two people simultaneously give each other oral sex.
Missionary: A sex position where one person gets to lie down and basically do nothing, while the partner on top does a little more work thrusting and grinding on them.
Bareback: Having sex without a condom. This is risky and kind of dangerous as it increases your chances of STIs and/or pregnancy.
BDSM: An acronym that stands for any or all of the following: bondage and discipline; dominance and submission; sadism and masochism.
Bisexual: Someone who is bisexual is defined by GLAAD as someone who “has the capacity to form enduring physical, romantic, and/or emotional attractions to those of the same gender, or to those of another gender.”
Blow Job: When someone puts their lover’s penis into their mouth and proceeds to suck and lick it for the penis-haver’s pleasure. Also called oral sex, fellatio, or “going down on” someone. The female version is called cunnilingus.
Blue Balls: As a slang term (aka not a medical term), “blue balls” refer to the pain a man feels in his scrotum from prolonged sexual arousal without ejaculation. Blue balls is not dangerous and doesn’t cause any long-term damage, nor do the balls turn a blue shade.
Bulge: The visible outline of a penis through someone’s pants.
Butt Plug: An anal sex toy shaped like a teardrop meant to be placed or “plugged” into one’s butthole.
Circumcision: The removal of the foreskin of the penis to reveal the head. The procedure typically happens when the boy is a baby, although it can sometimes be performed during adulthood for medical reasons, religious reasons, or just because a man wants it.
Cowgirl: A sex position where you have your legs on the outside of your partner’s hips and face them.
Cum Shot: A term used in pornography referring to the moment a man ejaculates, usually on his partner, where the semen can easily be seen.
Cunnilingus: A fancy word that means oral sex when performed on a woman. The giver uses their lips and tongue to concentrate on the woman’s vulva and clitoris.
Deep Throating: A blow job technique where the giver puts as much of the penis into their mouth as they can (sometimes the whole penis) which can sometimes cause gagging or even vomiting.
Dirty Talk: Talking about sex acts with your partner in an explicit, arousing way.
Edging: Refers to delaying an orgasm for as long as possible with the goal of having an ultimately more intense climax.
Face-Sitting: When a woman or man dangles their genitals over their partner’s mouth to receive oral sex.
Facial: When referring to the sex definition of a facial, it’s when a penis-haver ejaculates semen onto their partner’s face.
Fingering: When someone uses their fingers to stimulate their partner’s clitoris and/or vagina in order to bring them to orgasm, or to be used as foreplay.
Foot Fetish: A sexual interest in feet. A person with a foot fetish may be aroused by touching, licking, rubbing, kissing, sucking, and massaging of feet.
Foot Job: Similar to hand jobs, but involves using feet rather than hands to rub and stimulate a partner’s penis.
Golden Shower: Also called “water sports” and refers to a sex act involving urine. This can mean peeing on your partner, in front of your partner, near your partner, or having your partner pee on/near/in front of you.
Hand Job: Using your hand to stimulate someone’s penis until orgasm.
Jelqing: The practice of stroking the penis when erect in a particular way to increase its size. This is a similar concept to using a penis pump.
Masturbation: The act of touching or manipulating one’s own genitals for pleasure, which sometimes results in an orgasm.
Motorboating: The act of putting your face in between someone’s breasts and moving your head back and forth quickly while making a raspberry sound with your tongue and lips (like the sound of a motorboat.)
Orbiting: When your ex continues to interact with all your Instagram Stories and social media, letting you know they’re still around.
Orgy: Group sex with several partners in a party-like scenario that’s a bit over-the-top and outta control.
Pearl Necklace: When someone with a penis ejaculates onto their partner’s neck or chest. The term comes from the drops of semen that are said to look like the individual pearls on a strand of beads.
Period Sex: Having sex while you menstruate.
Pillow Princess: Someone who likes to lie back and let their boo do most of the physical work during sex.
Polyamory: The practice of having multiple romantic partners.
Pompoir: Using vaginal muscles in different ways to stimulate the penis during intercourse.
Pregnant Sex: Sex while carrying a baby inside you.
Quickie: Speedy, rushed sex, often without foreplay or cuddling.
Reverse-Cowgirl: A sex position that’s basically regular cowgirl (you facing your partner and straddling them with knees on either side of their hips), but backward, so you’re facing their feet instead.
Rimming: Also called a rim job, tossed salad, and analingus; refers to oral sex involving mouth-to-anus contact.
Roaching: When someone you’re dating hides the fact they are also dating other people at the same time, and when confronted about it, claim they didn’t realize it was a monogamous relationship.
Rough Sex: Basically the opposite of “making love.” Refers to any sort of S&M (sadistic and masochistic) sexual activity. The definition of “rough” varies person to person, so there’s no hard and fast rule here. Talk to your partner about what they define “rough” as if you’re going to experiment with consensual rough sex.
Rusty Trombone: The act of performing a simultaneous rim job and hand job.
Shocker: When someone sticks their pointer and middle fingers inside someone’s vagina, and then “surprises” them with a pinky finger in their anus, hence “shocking” them.
Shrimping: The act of sucking on your partner’s toes.
Situationship: A catch-all term for relationships sitting at the intersection of “hooking up” and “in a relationship.” Basically, this is like a step above a booty call because there are emotions involved.
Snowballing: A sexual act where a penis-haver ejaculates into their partner’s mouth, then open-mouth kisses their partner, passing the semen back and forth into each other’s mouths.
Spooning: When two people lie side-by-side, butt-to-back. The small spoon is the person on the inside, and the big spoon is on the outside.
Strap-On: a two-piece sex toy that includes a dildo and a harness, which attaches to the hips of the person wearing it. Strap-ons are often used for penetrative vaginal or anal sex.
Submarining: When an ex pops back into your life and then acts like nothing happened during the period you weren’t together.
Tantric Sex: Sex that lasts for hours and hours and involves study, meditation, breath-work, eye-contact, and intimacy with your partner.
Teabagging: When a man places their scrotum into the mouth or onto the face or forehead of another person, usually while standing or kneeling over that person.
Threesome: When three people have sex with each other simultaneously.
Venus Butterfly (technique): A sex act that involves both oral stimulation of the genitalia (cunnilingus) and manual stimulation (fingering) at the same time.
Vibrator: A sex toy that vibrates. While it can be used externally on the clitoris or penis, it can also be used internally in the vagina or anus, depending on its shape, design, and directions for use.
