From Jiddu Krishnamurti.... NO HE'S NOT A HARI KRISHA.....
"do you know what it means to depend on somebody for your happiness? it os not the mere physical dependence on another which is so binding, but the inward, psychological dependence from which you derive so called happiness; for when you depend on somebody... in that way, you become a slave.
do you know what it means to love somebody?... most of us... we don't know what that means at all becuz our love is always hedged about with anxiety, jealously, fear... which implies that we depend inwardly on another, we want to be love..... we don't just love and leave it there, but we ask something in return: and that in that very asking, we become dependant.
Love is not a reaction. if i love you because you love me, that is a mere trade. a thing to be bought in the market; it is not love.
To love is not to ask anything in return, not even to feel that you are giving something and it is only such love that can know freedom..."
I got this off AsianAvenue.com... I didn't write this so I
do not take credit for it...
ALTHOUGH IT'S WRITTEN FROM A GUY'S P.O.V., THE ADVICE WORKS FOR EVERYBODY, READ ON:)
LOVE IN A 10 BLOCK RADIUS
You`re in love with her, she`s in love with you, and everything`s smooth sailing in heart-shaped jacuzzis. Then suddenly, BOOM--at the slam of a door, the click of a phone (or even the closing of an AIM window) she`s gone, it`s over. You`ve just been dumped. Crushed.
Know the feeling? I`m not talking, like, you dated some chick for a couple months and she ditched you and you felt lame; I`m talking you`ve been drop-kicked from a serious relationship with a woman you were in love with, and now your food tastes like fax paper and you spend all day naked in front of the window, counting clouds.
Everyone`s got a different system for Breakup Recovery; mine may or may not work for you. And I know most guys wouldn`t follow relationship advice they got on the Internet, but then again, most guys secretly enjoy smelling their own farts. So here it is.
PART 1: HOUSECLEANING
Getting rid of evidence: Pretend your ex-girlfriend is the Mafia, and the Feds are on the way to your apartment. You`ve gotta
erase all traces of
her.
First things first, go in your bathroom and throw her
toothbrush away.
Shampoo, conditioner, those fruity little soaps, the
Tampax, all of it. Trust
me, she`s not coming back for it, there`s a pharmacy
full of this crap right
around the corner from her.
NOTE: Do not open and smell the shampoo to remind
yourself of her.
(Because if you do that for too long, it makes you
kind of dizzy.)
Thoroughly inspect sheets/pillowcases for all errant strands of her hair and dispose of them. Those pesky mnemonic bastards will turn up for months
if you don`t.
Hiding documentation: Gather all photographic/video proof that you
ever knew this woman and put it in a box, along with
any birthday cards or
letters from her.
NOTE: Some people like to throw the photos out or burn them, but any normal, healthy adult will realize there`s some value in saving that stuff.
You know, like if she gets famous or something.
The box goes in the back of the closet or someplace
dusty; anyplace
you`re not liable to stumble across it and suffer
emotionally crippling
flashbacks while searching for winter socks, etc.
PAL #1: What happened to Rain?
PAL #2: I dunno. He went in the closet to get his
baseball mitt and now
he`s standing naked in front of the window, counting
clouds.
Exchanging hostages: Clothes and CDs are stuff that
chicks will come
back for. If she`s left any lying around, put it all
in a box and leave it near
the front door for the eventual exchange. And stop
smelling her sweaters,
freak.
NOTE: If she doesn`t ask for her stuff within a
month...eBay.
Covering the trail: Go ahead and take her number off
the speed-dial.
Replace it with the number for Domino`s, Dial-a-Joke,
1-900-ASSMANN,
whatever; just get it out of there. Mass e-mail list,
ditto.
PART 2: INTERNAL AFFAIRS
Now that you`ve minimized the memory of her, and
hopefully her role
in your old life, you`ve got to sort things out in
your head.
Communications Blackout: During the recovery period never, ever
give in to the temptation to contact her. When you`re
upset and
irrational, you`ll blurt something you`ll regret, and
you`ll end up either
getting married or arrested.
Venting: You`ve got to get it out somehow, so write
her a print letter
you`ll never send. In the letter, tell her exactly how
you feel, no matter
how petty and psychotic. MAKE SURE YOU DO NOT SEND IT--if
you do, in an hour you`ll be back at the mailbox with
a mask and a
blowtorch.
Temper, Temper: The hours/days immediately following a
serious
breakup are an emotionally volatile period. If you`re
alcoholic, or a spaz, surround yourself with Nerf
products. Me, I like to cool off in that room filled
with multicolored
spheres at Chuck E. Cheese. And if you get banned from
the store,
there are Chuck E. Cheeses everywhere.
Tears for Fears: Women who say they think men should
cry are all
lying. The only appropriate time for a man to cry is
when he has been
sprayed with mace. In public, anyway. If you really
wanna let the tear
ducts rip, do yourself a favor and close the blinds.
Let It Ride: The most important thing is time.
Eventually, whether
it`s in six weeks or six years, you`ll go an entire
day without thinking
of her once. If you`re lucky you`ll even have trouble
remembering her
name. Until that happens, you`ve got to keep yourself
and your
irrational, confused instincts in check. You need to
recover your
strength, the strength you can only get from complete
emotional
solitude.
Remember, after a bad breakup, there are only two
possible
outcomes for you: you`ll either come out of it a
better person, or a
worse person. What`s it gonna be?
POST-BREAKUP EMOTIONAL PHASES:
Shock: "What happened?"
Denial: "This isn`t happening."
Depression: "This sucks."
Anger: "No, she sucks."
Confusion: "Or...maybe I suck."
Grim Acceptance: "Well, something sucks."
Random Misguided Horniness:
"Do I still have that porno tape?"
Mental Retardation: "I`m ready to date again."
ADDITIONAL AIDS TO RECOVERY:
The proper combination of loud music and soft music
Playstation 2
War movies
Spending time in prison
Hard labor, e.g. cleaning the bathroom, scrubbing
your sneaker
soles, reading the Village Voice
THINGS TO AVOID DURING THE RECOVERY PERIOD:
Too much alcohol
Sex with strangers
Anything starring Meg Ryan
Arguments with lesbians
Experimental masturbation techniques involving
computers and
bulky headgear
THINGS THAT WON`T ACTUALLY MAKE YOU FEEL ANY
BETTER:
Pranking her house
Pornography
Hard drugs
Picking fights at bars on the Lower East Side
Eating an entire bottle of Flintstones vitamins just
to see what
happens to you
Re-recording the outgoing message on your answering
machine in
an upbeat voice so that if she calls, she`ll be
impressed at how fine
you are. (She`s not going to call.)
Return to the lair of the newspaper thief
... poor souls have been helped by the wisdom I spread!
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