 |
| INFORMATION |
| "Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List" Author Unknown This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. For each item, you need to provide two answers: First write "YES" or "NO" next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity. Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender. Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5. NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit). |
|
| 0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (Sometimes called a "soft limit") 1. Means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you. 2. Means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you. 3. Means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular or occasional basis. 4. Means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis. 5. Means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible. Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with your current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners. Note any additional information that might be important for your Dom to know. There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the sub is the recipient of the activity. |
| Name: Age: Height: Weight: Hair Color: Eye Color: Willingness Experience No or yes/no 0-5. |
| Abrasion Age play Anal sex Anal plugs (small) Anal plugs (large) Anal plugs (public, under clothes) Animal roles Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders) Asphyxiation Auctioned for charity Bestiality Beating (soft) Beating (hard) Being serviced (sexual) Being bitten Blindfolds Bondage (light) Bondage (heavy) Bondage (multi-day) Bondage (public, under clothing) Boot worship Branding Breast whipping Breast/chest bondage Breath control Brown showers (scat) Cages (locked inside of) Caning Catheterization Cattle prod Cells/closets (locked inside of) Chains Chamber pot use Chastity belts Chauffeuring Choking Clothespin Cock worship Collars (worn in private) Collars (worn in public) Competitions (with other subs) Corsets (wearing) Cuffs (leather) Cuffs (metal) Cutting Diapers (wearing) Diapers (wetting) Diapers (soiling) Dilation Dildos Double penetration Electricity Enemas Enemas (retention/punishment) Enforced chastity Erotic dance (for audience) Examinations (physical) Exercise (forced/required) Exhibitionism (friends) Exhibitionism (strangers) Eye contact restrictions Face slapping |
| Fantasy abandonment Fantasy rape Fantasy gang-rape Fear Fisting (anal) Fisting (vaginal) Flame play Following orders Foot worship Forced bedwetting Forced dressing Forced homosexuality Forced masturbation Forced nudity (private) Forced nudity (around others) Forced servitude Full head hoods Gags (cloth) Gags (inflatable) Gags (phallic) Gags (rubber) Gags (tape) Genital sex Given away to another Dom (temp) Given away to another Dom (perm) Golden showers Hairbrush spankings Hair pulling Hand jobs (giving) Hand jobs (receiving) Harems (serving w/other subs) Harnessing (leather) Harnessing (ropes) Having food chosen for you Having clothes chosen for you Head (giving fellatio) Head (receiving fellatio) High heel wearing High heel worship Homage with tongue (non-sexual) Hoods Hot oils (on genitals) Hot waxing Housework (doing) Human puppy dog Humiliation (private) Humiliation (public) Hypnotism Ice cubes Immobilization Including others Infantilism Initiation rites Injections Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage Interrogations Kidnapping Kneeling Knife play Leather clothing Leather restraints Lectures for misbehavior |
| Licking (non-sexual) Manacles & irons Manicures (giving) Massage (receiving) Medical scenes Modeling for erotic photos Mouth bits Mummification Name change (for scene) Name change (permanent) Nipple clamps Nipple weights Oral/anal play (rimming) Over-the-knee spanking Orgasm control Orgasm denial Outdoor scenes Outdoor sex Pain (severe) Pain (mild) Phone sex (serving Dom) Phone sex (serving Dom's friends) Phone sex (commercial provider) Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) Piercing (permanent) Plastic surgery Prison scenes Prostitution (public pretense) Prostitution (actual) Pony slave Public exposure Punishment scene Pussy/cock whipping Pussy worship Riding crops Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.) Rituals Religious scenes Restrictive rules on behavior Rubber/latex clothing Rope body harness Saran wrapping Scarification Scratching (getting) Scratching (giving) Sensory deprivation Serving Serving as art Serving as ashtray Serving as furniture Serving as maid Serving as toilet Serving as waitress/waiter Serving orally (sexually) Serving other Doms (supervised) Serving other Doms (unsupervised) Sexual deprivation (short term) Sexual deprivation (long term) Shaving (body hair) Shaving (head hair) Sleep deprivation Sleep sacks |
| Sluttish clothing (private) Sluttish clothing (public) Spanking Spandex clothing Speech restrictions (when, what) Speculums (anal) Speculums (vaginal) Spitting Spreader bars Standing in corner Stocks Straight jackets Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) Strap-on-dildos (wearing) Strapping (full body beating) Suspension (upright) Suspension (inverted) Suspension (horizontal) Supplying new partners for Dom Swallowing feces Swallowing semen Swallowing urine Swapping (with one other couple) Swinging (multiple couples) Tampon training (in ass) Tattooing Teasing TENS unit (electrical toy) Thumb cuffs Tickling Triple penetration Uniforms Vaginal dildo Verbal humiliation Vibrator on genitals Violet Wand (electrical toy) Voyeurism (watching others) Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) Voyeurism (hearing Dom w/others) Video (watching others) Video (recordings of you) Water torture Waxing (hair removal) Wearing symbolic jewelry Weight gain (forced) Weight loss (forced) Whipping Wooden paddles Wrestling |