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Finding out how it works! | Ok, close your books and have a #2 pencil ready! This is the test i warned you about. i hope everyone studied. |
Ok, you and your partner work together.
Ropes and chains do not have to be present. Silk scarves or tape could be used, but you could just tuck your hands under the pillow above your head. He could just hold your hands behind you back as he gives you a long sweet kiss.
Just like you don't need ropes and chains you don't need to have domination and submission. Bondage can even be done alone.
Consensual isn't a part of it if you are exprimenting with bondag by yourself - however you do need double doses of A and B.
Bondage does not nessisarily mean sex. It is good alone, better with a partner, and even better with sex! It could be done with any number of people present PROVIDED everyone agrees to that. A better answer would have been "between two lovers". You should have discussed this with your partner! The BEST answer would have been "with your spouse"!
No wrong answer.
Just as there are not very many rules for how you can do bondage there aren't so many for when to do what. Basically you negotiate before being tied up, also if you make love you get untied right after that - unless you and your partner have negotiated about not doing it that way.
Go along with him to keep the peace? No! This a negotiation. You have just as much reason to want or not want things as he does! Refuse to talk about it? No! The only way you can end it is if he won't budge and you can't budge, but never refuse to listen just because you aren't willing to consider what he wants. Agree just so he will tie you up? No! Making you helpless and manipulating you is NOT what bondage is about! Bondage ALLOWS you to be helpless, but it should not forced it on you. That's called abuse, not bondage, not love bondage. All of the above? No! Absolutely not! None of the above? No! i told you bondage is a puzzlement, giggle. Go along with him if you want, refuse to talk about it if you have to, agree just so he'll tie you up if you are willing to try, to take the 'leap of faith'.
No wrong answer (tough question)
- A. negotiate before you get tied up
TRUE, you don't need to do this each session unless you want to change what has previously been agreed on.- B. bruises are to be expected if you are active
FALSE, if you keep getting bruises, bloodied, or broken then something is wrong! It may happen, but accidents happen. If it wasn't an accident then it was abuise. Bruises are NOT to be expected.- C. negotiate when he gets you tied up
FALSE, the idea is to do it before you are helpless.- D. since he's the Master he is in charge of negotiations
FALSE, no one is in charge of negotiations, you are equals.- E. since you are the bottom you are in charge
FALSE, no one is in charge of negotiations, you are equals.- F. you don't have to wear a gag
TRUE, unless you agree to it beforehand in negotiations a gag is a no-no.- G. even if someone walks in on you he can't 'give' you to them so they'll keep quiet
TRUE, 'give' you? Be serious!- H. if someone does walk in on the two of you it's a shared reasponsability
FALSE, protecting the slave falls as a reasponsability of the top. If you are tied up you sure can't be held reasponsable!- I. once you become the bottom you can never be a top
FALSE, switching roles is common. Sometimes you may want to be the top. You should try it at least once. The top has a lot of reasponsability!- J. he can hit, slap, or tickle you after he has you tied up
FALSE, unless you want him to and told him that durring negotiations, AND he agreed to do it.- K. it is assumed that he can have sex with you once you are tied up
TOSS UP, you'd better mention to him if this is ok or not. Some men will take it as a given that if you will let him tie you up that you expect him to have sex with you.- L. it is assumed that he has to tie you up as soon as you ask him to
FALSE, he is still a person too. You will have a type of control over the scene, but don't get bossy. Normally you have a right to have him untie you as soon as you ask/tell him to - unless you give that away durring negotiations.
Be honest.
Bondage. If i could bottle it and sell it i'd be a rich slave!
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